As I read about all the different types of interpersonal communication theories , social penetration theory stood out to me the most .This theory reminded me of so many situations where I noticed I gradually began to slowly open up. My relationship with my best friend Zuha reminded me the most of this theory. I meet Zuha in third grade. She moved from a different country and didn’t know anyone.I introduced myself to her and showed her around school. In the beginning of our friendship we would only talk during school, we didn’t see each other that much out of school. In middle school we got a lot closer and began to make a lot of memories , I remembered I never really opened up to her about personal stuff.
I’ve always been the type of girl who never opens up about anything. It takes me forever to feel one hundred percent comfortable around anyone. Once high school came I felt that’s when my friendship with Zuha was separating because we were growing up and going through so many life changes. After our high school graduation we realized that high school drifted us so much. We talked here and there but never really saw each other once college started. Five months ago exactly I lost my grandfather. Everyone who knows me know how important my grandparents are, to me they are my second set of parents. At that time I felt like my life was just falling apart. I didn’t want to see or talk to anyone. The day he passed away she showed up at my front door and I just let it all out. I finally opened up and felt okay with it. It hit me that she’s been there for me for the past twelve years , it hit me that she knew my pain, it hit me that it’s okay to open up. Ever since that tragic loss of mine me and her spend every weekend together. Writing this blog right now just made me realize it took a tragic event for me to completely open up one hundred percent to her. Today she knows me more than I know myself, I can talk to her about anything. The Social penetration theory fit perfectly with our friendship. I looked at it as the years represented each layer in an onion. When she first met me she only saw how I looked to everyone else, she saw my public layer. After twelve years of friendship, we have finally reached the core of the onion and I can truly say it feels amazing.
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| ( Zuha holding an onion.) |
I chose to write about the social penetration theory as well. I like how you focused your blog around your long-time friend. It's always so reassuring to know that you have someone there who knows who you truly are as a person; you can just be nothing but yourself around them. Like you, I lost someone incredibly close to me and there is no other word for it besides it sucks. Instead of a high school friend, I turned to my college best friend and like Zuha, my friend knows me better than I know myself. Your blog really hit home. I hope you and Zuha continue a lifelong friendship because it is obviously something special!
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