Sadie Bilda CTP Blog #2

The expectancy violation theory has to do with the sense of personal space. Like many others, personal space is very important to me. Growing up, I was more of an introvert that always needed extra alone time at the end of the day to regroup and clear my head. I have a "personal bubble" that extends about one foot out from my physical body. Unless it is to show affection towards someone I love, no one is allowed in this bubble.

For example, as much as I love going to summerfest, state fair, or other public outings it really takes a lot out of me to be around that many people that get so close. When a public place is too crowded and people are bumping into each other I can't help but feel as though everyone's energy is getting mixed with mine. When this starts to happen, I mentally become drained and want to go back to the comfort of my home and be completely alone. I really do not like being touched by so many different people, because it invades my personal space.
Another example of the expectancy violation theory is when someone stands too close to talk to you. When engaging in a conversation with someone, I like to keep an appropriate distance between the two of us. Unfortunately, not everyone is considerate of this when it comes to personal space. The absolute worst situation ever is when I am talking to a person and they feel the need to speak to me within my personal bubble. If this happens I try to step back and give us that preferred space but if I take a step back, the other person only takes a step closer to me again. At that point I try to get out of the conversation because my bubble is being violated and I can't handle that.



(pictured above: A fun outing with friends, while still being able to attain preferred personal distance!)


If more people understood the expectancy violation theory, I think they would be more considerate of others personal space. Since everyone is different, and cultures have different views on personal space, not everyone has the same values on the subject. Everyone has different preferred spaces and personal areas which is why it is important to be considerate of others.